Wish we could turn back time…

I haven’t blogged in such a very long time. Life has a way of working itself out whether I write about it here or not. There is so much stress in my life.

I have been trying with limited success to eliminate the extra stress.

Stress from work, from my spouse, from family obligations, those are what we put on ourselves and have a measured amount of success controlling.

I chose to worry about my job because it allows me to live a comfortable life. I chose to worry about my husband because I love him. I take on the responsibility of caring for other family members because they are deserving of my love.

A little voice in my head says I should care about sister, but she is a grown woman and can take care of her own mistakes. I worry that she puts a burden on my parents. I know that our parents do what they can because they love us. We are their children. I will always be little Jeffery. My sister will always be Becky. Our parents see us as children no matter how old we become.

So how to deal with this stress and obligation? Family can suck the life out of you if you let them. It’s our own original sin. Mom knows what to say to trigger feelings of guilt. My sister knows what to say to get under my skin. My dad is a reflection of who I am as a man. I both fear and embrace that future.

Here is the trick I recently discovered. They only want what is best for me. You can say no. The pressure you feel is of your own doing. I have learned that my sister will back down. My mother does understand that I have other commitments outside the family. It doesn’t remove the stress, but it softens it when I don’t live up to my own expectations. And there is the simple truth, these are my own expectations, not theirs.

Now there is also outside stress caused by the POTUS, CNN, MSNBC, and FOX News. But that too has a simple fix. Don’t watch it.

Everything truly isn’t BREAKING NEWS, or FAKE NEWS, or even important for that matter. This too has a way of working itself out without me. I will do what I can at the polls, but that’s really the only power I have over this political mess.

I came to this conclusion the other day when I thought President George Bush was making sense. Looking back sheds new light on what we can live with, deal with and understand.

Should I be scared? You betcha! Just ask Omarosa on Celebrity Big Brother, “It’s not going to be okay,” Omarosa says, looking down at the couch, still shaking her head. “It’s not. It’s so bad.”

Click the off button on the remote. Problem goes away. It’s that simple.

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