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Pride day at work

Posted in family, human rights with tags , on June 26, 2020 by jefferyrn

I made masks out of rainbow fabric for me and 3 coworkers. The rainbow was too big to get all the colors in but they turned out ok.

On the table.
The fabric.
On the face. Just me. Don’t have permission to show my coworkers. They are reversible.

Happy Pride Day!

Summer of love

Posted in love with tags on June 18, 2018 by jefferyrn

We had a pleasant Father’s Day weekend at home this year. No visitors, just the two of us. After watching a million home improvement shows we turned to Netflix. It’s the summer of love. We discovered all sorts of movies with gay characters. I was surprised. These movies never played in theatres around this part, let me tell you. So while the Rodeo was in full swing, we were at home enjoying art films.

The first one we watched was called “I am Michael.” This is a true story about Michael Glatze, a gay activist that turn into a heterosexual Christian. It stars James Franco. It was made in 2015. I am sure I am the only one in the dark about this movie, but I found it very interesting in dealing with the struggles of being gay in a Christian world. It is about Michael’s inter struggle as much as our culture as a whole. While I don’t agree with Michael’s decision, and despite the recent problems James Franco has faced in the media, this very well done.

After this one we ventured into the land of foreign films. It was in English, but took some creful attention to understand their distinct accents. “Loev” was made in India.

This one was a little bit dark in parts and at the end you find out that the lead actor, Dhruv Ganesh has died in real life. It is the story of two old friend getting together for the weekend and ultimately having an affair.

The darker part is what I would call a rape scene. But in the end he returns to his partner and there are some heart ache scenes that are very relatable with the boyfriend. We see them drive away and things switch gears as if the affair never happened.

The last one we watched was made in Argentina complete with subtitles. I don’ know about you but I hate subtitles, but 20 minutes into the picture I forgot about them. The movie was “Esteros”.

It about two boys who share a summer as teenagers and then have a chance meeting again as adults. The movie is shot beautifully and you really don’t need to know what is being said to understand it. The language of love is universal. I really enjoyed this one.

I am not sure what else Netflix has offer but I am looking forward to another adventure next weekend. After all it is pride month.

No gays allowed

Posted in human rights with tags on June 11, 2018 by jefferyrn

I had not planned on a Friday post, but Jeff Amyx in Tennessee has me very upset. He is a Baptist minister and owner of Amyx Hardware & Roofing Supplies. He claims that gay and lesbian couples are against his religion. He posted a sign at his business that says “No Gays Allowed” and “No Liberals Allowed” following the court ruling on the baker in Colorado.

Amyx is quoted as saying, “Christianity is under attack. This is a great win, don’t get me wrong, but this is not the end, this is just the beginning,” Amyx said. “Right now we’re seeing a ray of sunshine. This is happy days for Christians all over America, but dark days will come.”

I think it goes without saying that Christianity is not under attack, but I do agree with the dark days reference, except I think that started here and now with him.

Exclusion, isolation, and that nasty sin, superiority, have no place in a truly free society.

Note: I started this post on Friday but our mail server went down before I could post. I have chosen not to dignify this with any pictures Mr. Amyx and his sign.

It reminds me of Barney’s Beanery in West Hollywood. We got that sign removed in 1984. It infamously said: “Fagots – Stay Out.” Seems a step backwards now. We used to eat there in spite of the sign. John Anthony’s ghost must be proud of Jeff Amyx.

Pride verses religious freedom

Posted in human rights, rockyhorror with tags on June 7, 2018 by jefferyrn

It’s June, Pride month, a time to share our experiences of all things LGBTQ. It is a time of reflection and a time to look to the future. For me it has been an amazing journey to where we are now. The great strides we have made just in my life time with rights and acceptance by society are significant. But there is more work to be done.

When I came out 36 years ago, it was a different world. We met in secret places, bars, clubs, and parks. Now here I am sitting at work and everyone knows and it’s okay to see the light of day. Even that part of the journey is relatively new. It wasn’t safe to be gay in Northern Nevada, at least not in any traditional job. I came to this rude awakening after moving here from the San Francisco Bay area, which of course is mecca or our holy land. But even here great strides have been made. Some of my fears were only imagined in this land of trucks, hunters, miners and cowboys.

So where am I going with this piece? Recent headlines about the baker of wedding cakes have been disappointing. Some are calling is a setback. There is a problem with this new verdict, but it goes beyond those who are involved in the case. The problem is that while our community has come so far in gaining legal rights, we have failed in change the views of the religious leaders.

I know there are “special churches” that accept us. I also know that many members of the churches that don’t acknowledge us do as individuals. If we are ever going to be equal we need to tap into those people and get the view changed at the top of those organizations. If we do, that baker would no longer have a conflict with his beliefs when making his “Art”. (He may still an issue with Halloween, but we my name is spelled with a B not a W.)

So is this too much to ask? I think about what is missing from my life and why. The answer is my religious upbringing. I have come to terms with it over the years. My first reaction was to denounce it, as they had rejected me. But some things fester and won’t go away. Why shouldn’t I worship alongside my family? “Oh, you can Jeff, just do bring up that gay thing.” My parents have accepted me. My father still embraces his religious side. My mother has denounced it for her own reasons.

But I am a Christian. I don’t think being gay changes that trait. In some ways I wish I could have stayed with the Church and helped them see we are all the same. But that was going to be a lonely fight in the 80’s when churches were losing members anyway. I am not that brave person. It was not my destiny to fight that war. But I hope and pray that somebody does. I really don’t think God hates us. But that is the one group that is still keeping us at bay, the religious right.

God be with you.

(and also with you…something you can’t unlearn.)

When Right is Wrong

Posted in family with tags , , on April 27, 2010 by jefferyrn

Instead of trying to convey my own opinions on this subject I am providing a link to an article in the Huffington Post.  I think Alvin McEwen hits the nail on the head with his commentary.

He also has his own blog which I will add to my list of reading material,  Holly Bullies and Headless Monsters.

Escape From Reality

Posted in american idol, tv with tags , , , , , , , , on April 12, 2010 by jefferyrn

Up until now the majority of my posts have been about reality TV shows.  I find myself escaping my own reality by watching an alternate one on TV.   Now I find myself with a new problem.  These alternate realities have become hostile and boring.

 First take a look at DWTS.  The last two episodes we have seen fighting between the judges, fighting between the stars and their professional partners, not to mention some of the worst dance ever (Kate Gosselin go home!).   Buzz Aldrin, a hero from another time and place, goes home, but Kate the “scary bitch from hell” remains.

 Now let’s look at AI.   We have a group of uninteresting kids who for the most part can’t sing.  How did they get selected in the first place?  We have Tim Urban hanging in there because nobody really cares enough to vote for the others.   We have bad advice from the judges throwing some contestants like Didi off their game and into elimination.  And we have some weird dynamics between Simon, Kara and Ryan.  First off Kara needs to quit kissing Simons ass on the air.   We also need to quit promoting her “finds” as guests on the results show.  And never ever ever let her write the finally song again.  Second, Ryan needs to get over himself.  Yes I said Ryan not Simon.  We know who Simon is and we expect his behavior week after week.  And he is usually right about the contestants.    We don’t know who Ryan is…..  It makes for some odd TV to see Ellen who is comfortable enough with who she is to tell the world, be on the same show as Ryan who appears to be very immature and afraid.  I won’t say he is gay…..we don’t need to be unfairly labeling people, but the producers should not be throwing this question in our faces each week with the banter between Ryan and Simon either.   If he isn’t gay let it go!   If he is gay, shame on him for not having the guts to stand up for himself.  Either way it is an affront to gays and the human rights movement.

Okay so now that I have tired to put some reality back into reality…..lets hope for some entertainment this week.

Clay nation!

Posted in american idol, tv with tags , , , , , , on February 24, 2010 by jefferyrn

Former Idol runner -up, Clay Aiken, has come forward to promote gay rights in his hometown.  He will be giving a speech this weekend at the Human Rights Campaign Carolinas gala in Raleigh, North Carolina.

“I don’t feel like this is the place to be horribly politically charged and bash people and talk about the wrongs that have been done,” he said. “My goal is to be hopeful, that it’s time for everyone to have equal rights.”

“It’s more important to me, as a parent, that my son have all the rights — if he’s gay — than it is for me. I don’t want to do anything today that’s going to inhibit, or be a detriment to, his rights,” he said.

 “Some Southern families like to sweep things under the rug,” he said. “We just don’t talk about it.”

 Actress Meredith Baxter will also deliver a speech.

There isn’t much press on what Meredith plans to say but the “Family Ties” star has away been a favorite of mine since “Bridget Loves Bernie”, a short lived show from the 70’s.